Friday, November 01, 2013

I have no patience with adults

A few days ago, I had a meeting with someone who was talking about patience, and people who tried ours.

"I have all kinds of patience for kids, and for teenagers," she told me, "But I have no patience with adults. They should know better."

THANK YOU! This basically sums up how I feel about life in general. The kiddo tries my patience, but not on purpose. Adults do it deliberately, or so it seems.

Take today, for instance. I worked from home and so I wasn't there to let the door kick this woman in the ass on her way out. One of my volunteers made an appointment for someone to help them sign up for insurance. Like all of our services, we don't charge for this.

First off, she's over an hour late. That alone would make me say, "I'm sorry, but we have other people coming in, and you need to reschedule." This volunteer is super nice and maybe too accommodating. But I am not there, so he keeps the appointment and stays late.

She proceeds takes forever to go through the application, because she didn't bring the information she was asked to bring. Then at the end she changed all of her answers! Um, hello. I am unsure of the details of this - I was at the dentist when it happened - but I wrote the volunteer and told him, "Just because you are a volunteer doesn't mean people have carte blanche to waste your time!"

Another example, also from work. A colleague in another office emailed me and asked a question that I didn't have the answer to, as it had to do with something another agency does. I copied a contact at the other agency and said, "I'm copying so-and-so to find out."

A day goes by. Maybe not even an entire day. Then the colleague emails one of my employees the exact same question. We discuss this, SINCE WE WORK IN THE SAME OFFICE, and it turns out she emailed the contact at the other agency as well. So we both look like idiots.

So without a hint of sarcasm, I email the colleague and copy my employee and say, "If you have a question about Project X, and one of us does not get back to you immediately, it's because we are still waiting for the answer. We both emailed so-and-so because you emailed us both separately. So please just email one of us when you have questions."

And without a hint of irony she wrote back, "Great! Thanks!"

I tell you, velcro was invented for a reason. I do not know how some people get up and tie their shoes in the morning.

I have no patience with adults.


Cheryl said...

I know it is hard to believe after reading my blog but I have infinite patience until someone is rude or inconsiderate. Now that person coming in late, unprepared and indecisive would cause me to cop an attitude. It seems that everyone has become so self-serving and totally devoid of thinking about the feelings of others. GGRRRR

Lee said...

I have no patience...and feel no shame in admitting's just the way it is. And as for adults...I could write in length here, but I won't...other than to say I am a very reclusive person these days...of my own choosing...and I love it!

That should just about cover it! ;)

And if I don't smash this mosquito that's buzzing around my head will feel the power of my impatience!

Elephant's Child said...

Not enough research money (not nearly enough) is devoted to finding a cure for jerks.
Says another person with limited patience.

OldLady Of The Hills said...

I have no patience for anything anymore---but mostly, I have no patience for the unprofessional way so many many people move through life now. I do believe one must learn at an early age about discipline and approaching everything you do with professionalism and a passion for what you do. It's called "Caring". I don't want to have anything to do with anyone that doesn't approach what they do with these three pre-requisites. I know that's harsh...But you know what? Life is too short to do things any other way, in my opinion. I LOVE working with people who are obsessed with "getting it right", and who are the first to say 'I don't know, but I'll find out'. Oh the JOY of working with people who truly care!!!

Memphis Steve said...

The difference you described between children and adults is the difference I notice between traffic in my hometown and traffic in Memphis. In my hometown when people screw you over it is always on purpose. They're in a nasty mood and they want everyone else to be, too. But in Memphis the vast majority of people are idiots who don't know and don't care how they affect everyone else. It still makes me mad. They're not children, after all, and they should know better. It's just that they're too selfish and willfully ignorant to care enough to learn, or simply think beyond themselves.

Charles Gramlich said...

In one argument I had with my ex, she told me. "I don't understand why you can have so much patience with Josh, but none with me."

My response was, "Because Josh is four."

Debra She Who Seeks said...

Immature jerks are why bitchslaps were invented.

Dexter Klemperer said...

I would really like to say that I won't tolerate tardiness but it's hard to be a hater when most of the offenders are relatives.

Riot Kitty said...

Cheryl: I believe you! The amount of time you take to find the stories and expound...well, that indicates patience. But yeah, I would have gotten an attitude with her before she set foot in the door.
Lee: Is it now an ex-mosquito? :) I think being reclusive sounds pretty good!
EC: Excellent point!
Naomi: So well said.
Steve: That's like 80% of the drivers in Oregon. I tried to find your blog, and can't??
Charles: That is fucking fantastic!
Debra: Sad to say, we can't do that at work...
Dexter: Another good point. It would make it impossible for me to see some members of my family.

Lee said...

Yep! I ended up smashing the mosquito. He wasn't as fleet of wing as he thought he was!

That'll teach him! He won't do that again! ;)

G. B. Miller said...

I hate to sound like a broken record (for those of you who don't know what a "record" is, look it up in Wikipedia), but welcome to my world.

I got through this on a weekly/daily/hourly basis with staff members who make Jim Carey's and Jeff Daniel's characters from "Dumb and Dumber" look like super-geniuses.

I may be forced to be polite and courteous to every single putz-for-brains that e-mails/phones me with the most stupidest/infantile request/question known to mankind, but it doesn't mean I have to ACT on it in a polite/courteous/TIMELY manner.

Being a guv'ment worker, it does not pain me to say that the majority of guv'ment workers are idiots.

Claire T said...

I'm the same. Endless patience with children (lucky, given my profession!), but when adults are infuriating it grates big time.

Lynn said...

That is just inconsiderate to be so late - I hate that more than anything.

Riot Kitty said...

Lee: Cheers!
GB: I love that bit about Wikipedia...and the point about not having to act in a polite/timely/courteous manner!
Claire: They are very lucky, given your profession! I'd kill the parents though.
Lynn: YES. A few minutes, fine; traffic, understandable; more than an hour and no phone call? Forget it!

Granny Annie said...

Just out of curiosity, do you have TMJ? My mother had it from clinching her teeth too tightly. She was very impatient.

Betty Manousos said...

great post/topic! i'm the same. literally.
with adults, i have a hard time containing my frustration, i mean they should know better, and therefore shouldn't behave in such an unruly way or fail to use the manners their mom taught them.

big hugs!

A Beer For The Shower said...

It's not until you work with people that you realize how truly stupid and immature they can be. I worked with a woman like that. "Hey, do you know the answer? So it's been like 5 minutes, do you know the answer now? You know what, I'll just ask your co-worker. And your boss. And the guy in HR. He doesn't know anything about computers, but maybe he knows. Yeah, that's a good idea."

Abby said...

Golden rule, simple.

Riot Kitty said...

GA: Very funny! I don't.
Betty: I do too. Even when I am outwardly nice, it's obvious when I am running out of patience.
ABFTS: Yes, thank you! How hard is it to wait a bit? Oh I'll just go ask someone else and find out.
Abby: Yep.

LL Cool Joe said...

I have no patience with adults or kids, particularly 2 girls aged 15 and 19 that have caused me to go grey and lined.

DWei said...

I have an extraordinary amount of patience with most people. Until you've exhausted it.

Now I'll never have any patience with you ever again and you only have yourself to blame.

Birdie said...

I love my job in palliative care. Everyone is always grateful.

lotta joy said...

I have NO patience with kids because they only appear innocent. They are practicing to be TEENAGERS. Who also try my patience because they know they're going to outlive me. Adults put my teeth on edge because the older they get, the more childish they become.

So basically, EVERYONE pisses me off.

Not YOU, of course...uh....nevermind.

Beatrix said...

its hard to have "patience" when your being fucked up the arse 24/7. LOL! you wanna gob stopper. LOL!

Riot Kitty said...

Joey: :)
DW: Excellent!
Birdie: That's really gratifying.
LJ: (Laughing)
B: Yeah good poitn!