Monday, November 15, 2010
Patience is a virtue
...that I do not have much of.
I like what Ambrose Bierce said: "It is a form of despair disguised as a virtue."
Actually, someone recently said that I have patience "for those who deserve it."
I like to think so.
My problem is when there are people in my life who definitely don't deserve it, but I try to give it to them anyhow (even when I want to stick it to them) because they are in the extended circle of my life, by way of being connected to people I care about.
There are people I would love to never, ever see again. OK, maybe once every 10 years or so. That would be enough.
So the way I see it, it tries my patience enough having to see them more often than that, and being nice to them is even more difficult, since they are being shitheads to me.
See, I was raised to believe that the following things were part of the social contract:*
2. Not being a complete greedy bastardly pig.
There are people related to people I care about who seem to have completely missed out on this lesson, and, well...they are trying my patience!
Just cross your fingers for me. It's hard for me to keep my mouth shut but I am trying to keep the peace and not go off on the people who are pissing me off.
How do you stay patient?
*My friend K says part of the social contract also means you must wear pants in public. I agree.